Anxiety in children
3 – 18 years · 5 min read
All children feel worried or scared sometimes, of the dark, of new places, of being away from you. Anxiety becomes a problem when worries are big, frequent, and stop a child doing things other children their age can do.
Anxiety is very treatable, and parents are a big part of the help.
What parents often notice
- Clinging, crying or tummy aches before school, outings or being left with others.
- Many “what if” questions, and needing lots of reassurance that doesn’t seem to last.
- Avoiding things they used to enjoy, or new situations.
- Trouble falling asleep, bad dreams, or wanting to sleep with you.
- Irritability or meltdowns that are really fear underneath.
What helps at home
- Name the feeling calmly: “You’re worried about tomorrow. That makes sense.”
- Help them face fears in small steps rather than avoiding them altogether; avoidance makes worry grow.
- Keep daily routines steady and sleep regular.
- Teach one calming skill when they are calm; slow “smell the flower, blow the candle” breathing.
- Notice your own worry; children learn how to handle fear from watching us.
When to talk to a professional
- Worry stops your child going to school, sleeping, eating or seeing friends.
- It has lasted more than a few weeks, or you are worried about their safety.
Who can help
- Child psychologist
- Child psychiatrist
- School counsellor
Sources
Last updated 28 September 2026 · General information, not medical advice. It is not a diagnosis or a substitute for a qualified professional.