Talking to family and neighbours about your child
For parents · 4 min read
Grandparents, aunts, neighbours and other parents often mean well, but comments like “he is just spoilt” or “you are worrying too much” can hurt. A few simple words, said calmly, can change how family understands your child.
Simple things you can say
- “We are working with a doctor to understand how he learns best.”
- “She needs a bit more time and a different kind of help. That is what we are giving her.”
- “What helps most is patience and a calm voice. Thank you for trying.”
- “We would like to handle this our own way. We will tell you if we need advice.”
Bringing grandparents along
- Invite them to watch a therapy session or a home activity, so they see what works.
- Share one or two simple tips, such as giving a warning before a change, rather than a long list.
- Let them share the good moments too. Point out what your child has learned lately.
- You can share a page of your Nurture report on WhatsApp if it helps them see the same picture.
When your child struggles in public
- You do not have to explain to strangers. A short line is enough: “He is having a hard moment. He will be fine.”
- Focus on your child first. Move to a quieter spot if you can.
- Ask the people who are close to you to step in and help, not to comment.
You decide what to share
Your child’s health details are private. Share only what you want to, and only with people who will treat it kindly. Use words your child would be comfortable hearing.
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Last updated 28 September 2026 · General information, not medical advice. It is not a diagnosis or a substitute for a qualified professional.